Some days we are more raw

Some days we are more open than others, more raw. Whether that’s due to the moon or the universe, the evening news, anniversaries of events, the weather, our own cycles in this world, the ongoing pandemic, who knows? But we can claim these raw moments and love them even if they are hard.

I want to invite you to claim and love that rawness, those moments when you are more raw. Of course, you need to be able to not hurt or kill yourself and to not hurt or kill someone else, but, if you can do that, it’s okay to lean into the raw emotion. This is not a time to beat yourself up, but to know you can feel deeply. If it’s too deep, sometimes we get carried away in it in a way that is harmful, but if we can stay grounded and love all of ourselves and the depth of feeling we can have, it’s amazing. 

Sometimes, writing can take us to places where we feel deeply, that’s amazing, but we have to be able to come out of it. This is what orienting is for. We did some orienting in the very first blog post I posted here. Orienting, just to refresh is to look around, allow your body to know where it is. Even if your head knows, your body needs to orient and be allowed to settle into its environment, even if you have been there a million times before and especially if you have not. So, looking around and noticing things around you, colors, interesting things, whatever catches your eye. You can write that down, or not. We can all practice orienting all the time, to feel a little less anxious, a little stronger in the wild wild world.

So, back to the rawness, sometimes we recognize the depth of emotion we can feel.

Think of things that are raw. Raw carrots. Raw zucchini. I think immediately of things that are not cooked. They are raw. But, what about when we are raw? Perhaps, it’s a harder spot to be in, but we are as close to our real selves when we feel raw emotion as we may ever be. It is a point to notice and respect, but also to care for.

Writing Exercise

I want to invite you to do a constrained writing exercise, putting some restraints or boundaries on what you write. So, there are some rules.

  1. Write a total of 14 lines on loving yourself.
  2. Begin with this phrase: “When I chose to love myself” or something similar.                                              
  3. First bonus: Include one line about your depth of feeling, about how you are raw- this might be raw like an apple, fallen from the tree or may be raw like a child who has just fallen down and skinned their knee- you can go metaphorical or real. How does this add to your depth and being present with it?
  4. Second Bonus: Add, if you would change anything about yourself- What would you change about yourself and why? Or if not, why not? And add a small examples of change that you would or would not do.
  5. Third bonus: Add how you choose your own power for your growth. How do you allow yourself to be raw and embrace that part of you, embrace all that you are, even in your raw moments? (we all have them). 
  6. Fourth bonus: Use one or more of the following words: sunset, dirt, river, mountain, parade, flashlight, wildflowers, shadow, handwritten, twine, blossoms, newspaper, meteor

Remember if you don’t want to follow the rules, just write about loving yourself. Picking up the pen and putting it to the paper is the most important thing. Gift yourself that. Allow your creativity to come through.

The most important thing we can do when we feel raw is take care of our mental-emotional health. Do nice things for us. Write. Breathe. Listen to fun music. Talk with a friend. Play with a pet. Notice things we find beautiful outdoors. Find something to make us laugh and enjoy laughing. 

Thank you for writing with us! If you would like to write with us every Tuesday, please follow the blog and you will get a post with a prompt every Tuesday! Would love to see you!

Take care. Be well.


Liza Wolff-Francis



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Liza Wolff-Francis is a poet and writer with an M.F.A. in Creative Writing from Goddard College who is proud to have served two terms as a member of the Albuquerque Poet Laureate Program’s Selection Committee. She was co-director for the 2014 Austin International Poetry Festival and a member of the 2008 Albuquerque Poetry Slam Team. She has an ekphrastic poem posted in Austin’s Blanton Art Museum by El Anatsui’s sculpture “Seepage” and her work has most recently appeared in Steam Ticket, eMerge, Minute Magazine, Weaving the Terrain: 100 Word Southwestern Poems, Bearing the Mask: Southwestern Persona Poems, Poetic Routes, Poetry Pacific, Edge, and on various blogs. She has a chapbook out called Language of Crossing (2015, Swimming with Elephant Publications), which is a collection of poems about the Mexico- U.S. border. She loves breakfast food, popcorn and dark chocolate.

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