What does it mean to surrender to the feelings we have, the sadness, the joy, the uncertainty, the anxiety, the pain, the love, the overwhelm, the calm? Does it mean to give up? To stop trying? No.

It means to stop fighting it and to go with the flow. Be in the flow of life. 

There may be a coming storm or the storm may be leaving. You may be in the midst of it and if you are, how do you enjoy the storm rather than fighting it? This doesn’t mean you can’t take cover, you can, but this isn’t about giving up, it’s about letting the storm of what is happening be there with all of its rain and hail and snow, with all of its rainbows, amazing clouds and colors. Be in it. With it. ALL of it.

Surrender to it.

Can you stop resisting the situation and go with the flow?

What does that mean right now for you? What does surrender mean?

Think: What is the dominant emotion in your life right now? How can you use that emotion to move through- and go with the flow? Or how can you notice what you are feeling and allow it to be and move through it?


1. Write one line to something you didn’t know that you loved. You can begin however you wish or use the line: I didn’t know that I loved… After that, write a follow up line if you wish.

2. Now write a line with the identified dominant emotion of your life right now and how you move through it. Write: I move through ______________________.

If you feel the dominant feeling in your life right now is sadness, you might begin with this: I move through sadness right now by hugging myself.

3. How do you feel about that? Is it okay or not? Write it down.

4. Now, again, write “I didn’t know that I loved…

5. Write a follow up line to that. Whatever you want to say.

6. Now write what surrender means to you, but keep it positive or imagistic (one or the other or both). Surrender means…

7. If you can write 1-2 more follow up lines, whatever you want. You can also do this sequence again if you wish, this could go on for a while- however long you wish. What are other things you didn’t know that you loved? And then what are follow up lines.

8. End with I move through ____________________ (the dominant emotion you chose).

Here is an example to give you an idea:

I didn’t know that I loved blueberries. I eat them every day now. This summer I get them with every click of the button for my pick-up order of groceries.

I move through sadness like I float in the ocean, letting the waves rock me.

Some days the water feels angry, others playful, I try to let the ocean hold all of me even if it’s moody and loud. I haven’t really felt the ocean in a year, but I remember it well as if my body, made up of so much water, feels one with it still.

I didn’t know that I loved long evening walks with you. Now, during Covid, we walk in the evening, mask sucked into our mouths by our in-breaths, but we talk about dreams and the coming rain.

Surrender is feeling cold drops fall on my skin or the ocean carrying me with it out into it’s dark and then back to its shore.

There are many things I love and more I have yet to discover.

I move through sadness.


So, that is an example, but write your own. What do you “not know that you loved?” How do you surrender to it and not let it overtake you.

Let your feelings go, surrender.

This is a hard time for everyone. Remember this and have compassion for yourself and others. Surrender to that compassion. Surrender in the most beautiful way.

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Take care. Be safe and be well.

-Liza Wolff-Francis




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Liza Wolff-Francis is a poet and writer with an M.F.A. in Creative Writing from Goddard College who is proud to have served two terms as a member of the Albuquerque Poet Laureate Program’s Selection Committee. She was co-director for the 2014 Austin International Poetry Festival and a member of the 2008 Albuquerque Poetry Slam Team. She has an ekphrastic poem posted in Austin’s Blanton Art Museum by El Anatsui’s sculpture “Seepage” and her work has most recently appeared in Steam Ticket, eMerge, Minute Magazine, Weaving the Terrain: 100 Word Southwestern Poems, Bearing the Mask: Southwestern Persona Poems, Poetic Routes, Poetry Pacific, Edge, and on various blogs. She has a chapbook out called Language of Crossing (2015, Swimming with Elephant Publications), which is a collection of poems about the Mexico- U.S. border. She loves breakfast food, popcorn and dark chocolate.

2 thoughts on “Surrender

  1. I’m slowly learning how to surrender, how to let go of things I cannot control, despite how cliche it sounds. It is empowering when I take on that perspective though. It just requires quite a bit of work to be mindful of it. Thanks for sharing!


    1. Stuart, I think it’s a lifelong and continual process- for all of us. There may be some things we are able to let go of and something else comes along and it’s harder for us to do that and then it’s like relearning that process all over again. And it is a process. You are not alone in that. Even though it can be scary and difficult, the surrender can also be freeing and yes-empowering! Thank you for sharing!


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