When your inner voice is mean to you

What do we do if our inner voice is mean to us? What do we do when our own self is being mean to us? We need to change that up- and quick!

We all have an inner voice. It hangs out with us to varying degrees throughout our lives. This voice is directly tied to our sense of self and our outlook on life. And, often it’s mean and overly critical. It might make us feel unhappy, anxious, and negative about ourselves and about the world around us. This can push us to lose hope in ourselves, the world, even life.

However, it’s possible to re-shape and transform your inner voice into something that makes you feel good about yourself and empowers you.

How? Positive affirmations.

Our thoughts play a big role in our overall sense of self-worth and happiness. Affirmations are a way to boost your mind’s sense of self-worth. Boosting your mindset with affirmations is a great way to work daily to improve your self-esteem and generally feel better about yourself.

Positive affirmations can help you get a hold of your inner voice and show it who’s boss. Positive affirmations can help us break old patterns and overcome the barriers they have set up.

What would you like to believe about yourself?

What is a negative thing you say about yourself and how can you turn it around to be positive? For a simple example: You might say to yourself, “I’m ugly.” You could change that to say, “I’m beautiful” but if you don’t believe it, maybe it would be easier to say something like: “I am working on loving all parts of myself” or “I make a difference in the world by my presence in it.”

It’s important to have affirmations you believe and connect with.

Here are a few examples and then I’m going to ask you to write your own:

  1. I am grateful to have people in my life who listen to me.
  2. I allow myself to be who I am without judgement.
  3. I trust myself to trust others.
  4. I am on the path I need to be on and I trust that.
  5. I care for myself in a way that keeps me strong.

Write a list of 5-7 affirmations that affirm you, that make you feel good about yourself, that make you grateful for you, that remind you that you love yourself, that help you truly know how wonderful you are.

After you write the affirmations, choose 3 that you really identify with and see if you can say them aloud to yourself, try to say them looking at yourself in the mirror. Repeating affirmations is also key. Try to make this a daily practice. If you don’t want to say them in the mirror or if it’s hard, write them again tomorrow. You can pick the same three or choose from all of the ones you wrote. Just keep affirming you!

There is no formula, just choose a few that make you feel good about yourself and go with them.

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Take care. Be well.


Liza Wolff-Francis

Published by lizawolfffrancis

Liza Wolff-Francis is a poet and writer with an M.F.A. in Creative Writing from Goddard College who is proud to have served two terms as a member of the Albuquerque Poet Laureate Program’s Selection Committee. She was co-director for the 2014 Austin International Poetry Festival and a member of the 2008 Albuquerque Poetry Slam Team. She has an ekphrastic poem posted in Austin’s Blanton Art Museum by El Anatsui’s sculpture “Seepage” and her work has most recently appeared in Steam Ticket, eMerge, Minute Magazine, Weaving the Terrain: 100 Word Southwestern Poems, Bearing the Mask: Southwestern Persona Poems, Poetic Routes, Poetry Pacific, Edge, and on various blogs. She has a chapbook out called Language of Crossing (2015, Swimming with Elephant Publications), which is a collection of poems about the Mexico- U.S. border. She loves breakfast food, popcorn and dark chocolate.

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