ABCs of Compassion

Feeling compassion for yourself is so important- for all of us. It is key in feeling we accept ourselves in who we are- geysers and all. If there is a part we do not like about ourselves or if we do something that makes us feel shame, instead of beating ourselves up for whatever it was, we can try to feel compassion for ourselves.

How do we have compassion for ourselves? How do still we feel love for ourselves now that we did that thing or that we find ourselves feeling we are bad or blah or unacceptable or unexceptional? I’m not going to give you the ABCs, by the way, but we will write using them. 

To feel compassion and love for ourselves, we must accept who we are completely, even with our faults. We can do this by knowing that we are perfect as we are- even if we need to change what our definition of “perfect” is. If we can know and accept that, then, if there is something we want to change and can change, it’s easier to do that when we accept our whole selves.

In having compassion for ourselves, we can also remember, we are human. We are doing our best. We have learned behaviors and we have sometimes internalized messages that may work against us. We must remember we are great. We are cool people. We are loveable. We are worthy and deserving of love and compassion.

Write:

Today I  invite you to write a form poem, but don’t worry, it’s not a hard one and it’s fun! I want you to write an ABCderian and I want you to write it about compassion for you- how to have compassion for you. an ABCderian is a poem that begins with A and goes through every letter of the alphabet with a new phrase. 

Ex. Always have compassion for yourself. Believe you are worth it. Call yourself to stand up for yourself. Don’t doubt you are wonderful. Every day you can remind yourself to love yourself. Forgive yourself. Give yourself a chance once and twice and again and again. Have a strong belief in you. In every instance, be good to yourself. J….

Go through every letter of the alphabet in this way. See if you can get through the whole thing offering yourself permission to have compassion for yourself to love yourself deeply, to forgive yourself, to believe in yourself,…

To begin: Write a sentence that begins with the letter A and then go through the entire alphabet writing sentences about having compassion for you.

BONUS: to make it even a bit more complicated. Include one sentence that has five words and one that is only one and one that is longer, like 30 words.

Example 2:

Always think first on the things I do well, the ways I am beautiful.

Be the love for myself, that is what I am reminding me to do even in life’s hard moments.

Caring about me and remembering my good intentions, my inner glow.

Doing this always will allow me to start in a place of loving me rather than feeling upset with me.

Loving yourself is a wonderful gift for yourself, one you can practice and give to yourself and the rest of the world every day!

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Be safe and be well- and be compassionate to you!

Best,

Liza

Liza Wolff-Francis

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Liza Wolff-Francis is a poet and writer with an M.F.A. in Creative Writing from Goddard College who is proud to have served two terms as a member of the Albuquerque Poet Laureate Program’s Selection Committee. She was co-director for the 2014 Austin International Poetry Festival and a member of the 2008 Albuquerque Poetry Slam Team. She has an ekphrastic poem posted in Austin’s Blanton Art Museum by El Anatsui’s sculpture “Seepage” and her work has most recently appeared in Steam Ticket, eMerge, Minute Magazine, Weaving the Terrain: 100 Word Southwestern Poems, Bearing the Mask: Southwestern Persona Poems, Poetic Routes, Poetry Pacific, Edge, and on various blogs. She has a chapbook out called Language of Crossing (2015, Swimming with Elephant Publications), which is a collection of poems about the Mexico- U.S. border. She loves breakfast food, popcorn and dark chocolate.

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